I’ve been more in the mood to write these last few weeks than I have in the last few months! Not sure why but I’m feeling a fresh energy, and a whole lot less resistance.
Let’s talk about resistance for a second, shall we? It’s a close cousin to procrastination, but are they really the same thing? Is one just a euphemism for the other? I don’t think so.
In my mind, the distinction lies in the project at hand. You procrastinate taking out the trash. You resist making that networking call that might propel your career forward.
One is a seemingly mundane task or something you “have” to do that probably won’t impact your life in a huge way (unless of course you don’t take out the trash for months but that’s another problem entirely).
The other is something you’re genuinely interested in, that you’re probably feeling called to, and for good reason, but you’re maybe a little bit terrified.
Using our example of the networking call … what if it goes terribly and you’ve now squandered that connection? Your anxiety-ridden brain might place that in the same category as, say, I dunno… the apocalypse. In other words, your life is over.
Okay, so that might seem extreme, and maybe you have rational judgment enough to know that’s probably not the case. Fair enough. I bet you can think up some other negative consequences without too much effort.
But let me challenge you to maybe, just maybe, assume a different perspective for a second.
Option 1: Worst case (is it really though?)
The call doesn’t go as well as you’d like.
In the words of a very wise philosopher (ahem… Ariana Grande), THANK YOU, NEXT.
Meaning, okay… what can I learn from this experience, and how can I move forward? Rather than focusing on the problem, why not think about the opportunity? I promise you it feels better.
Option 2: Best case (yah baby!)
Maybe, the call goes way better than you ever expected! You instantly connect with this person. It feels easy, effortless. And they have just the contact or resource you’ve been searching for. You get off the call super happy! That wasn’t nearly as hard as you anticipated. Why the heck have you been putting it off so long?
In other words … what is the freaking best case scenario you can come up with?! Feel free to dream a little here. Even if it doesn’t feel realistic.
Now anchor your thoughts there. Anytime you feel yourself slipping back to the negatives and the scary what if’s, make a conscious effort to refocus back to all the potential ways this could go RIGHT.
Decide that the universe has your back on this one! Choose to live in an abundance mindset rather than a scarcity one. It’s a sure-fire way to help shift your energy from that space of resistance to one of action!
It’s a win-win!
In either option above, you’ve won. You’ve either gained some valuable experience and learned something that will help you do it better next time. Or you’ve taken a really positive step forward, just like you hoped. This quote from Charles R. Swindoll sums it up beautifully:
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
So next time you’re feeling a lot of resistance to something on your to-do list, try this perspective on for size. It’s been so so helpful for me and I hope you find the same!